IS THIS YOU?
You are not falling apart.
You are exhausted from holding it all together.
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You are managing your emotions constantly - keeping a lid on things so you can keep giving, keep rushing, keep showing up.
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The emotional ups and downs feel relentless. The reactivity. The dysregulation. The sense that you don't quite have a grasp on your own reality.
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You find yourself outsourcing for other people's opinions over listening to your own knowing.
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You are always correcting, pushing, steadying - in a loop of striving that never quite ends.
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You are watching these same patterns show up in your children, and something in you quietly refuses the only answers being offered.
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You know, somewhere deep down, that there is something more. And you are right.
Illume is for you.
You were never broken.
Your nervous system was doing exactly what it was designed to do — in a world that never taught you how to work with it.
Hi I'm Monica!
Mother, partner, daughter, sister, lover of nature, music and cooking my mum's food because I was born in the UK (where she is), but now live in Australia!
I used to be a registered mental health nurse in the mental health system for years. Like over 20. Until I realised my burnout wasn't to do with how poorly I was looking after myself - because I wasn't doing a bad job. I had a healthy full life. No, it was that my system recognised that there was just too much that didn't make sense to me. The rise and rise of mental health issues in children, and seeing adults who weren't getting better, but were just getting maintained at a level that was...well just about surviving. I didn't feel like I was doing very much and my system had had enough. So I began exploring an alternative understanding of the root of our issues.
After my daughter was born and I began experiencing the issues that many mothers do - the overwhelm, the spiralling, and then the rage I began applying the tools and understandings that I had begun to explore just a few years before - to myself. After experiencing first-hand a shift in myself that I had once believed would take years of medication and therapy to change, there was no going back.
I am now a somatic psychotherapist, and nervous system educator and spent the last seven years studying everything that the conventional system could not explain - polyvagal theory, somatic psychotherapy, Compassionate Inquiry, IFS, and the teachings of Gabor Maté, Stephen Porges, Deb Dana and Peter Levine.
But that is not all. My own healing journey, and a curiosity that refused to stay inside the clinical world, led me to places I could never have imagined.
Spaces that understand the mind-body connection as inseparable from spirit. Ancient wisdoms and indigenous knowings that have brought me to the very edge of what it means to understand ourselves - and our place in this world. I believe this is where the real integration happens. And it is what I bring into everything I offer.
I did not leave the system because I gave up. I left because I understood it - and I found something better. Illume is the offering of that understanding.
"It's like a light bulb just went off in my head. I get it now....why I go down these thought patterns. I feel clear headed...like a light has just been switched on."
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WHAT'S INCLUDED
What you receive inside Illume
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Four weekly video/audio teachings
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Short, focused, embodied. Each one introduces a theme and a lens for the week ahead. Recorded in both video and audio format so you can listen the way it suits you.
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Somatic practices
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Deeply effective tools to work with your body and nervous system — not just your mind.
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Weekly reflection prompts
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To carry the inquiry through your week, gently and at your own pace.
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Four live circles with Monica
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Where we come together as a group to integrate, share, and go deeper. These are not coaching calls. They are something more. Each live call will take place on a Wednesday evening or a Sunday morning, with replays available.
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First live call Wed 13th May @ 6.30PM AEST
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A community of women
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Who understand — because they are in it too.
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WHO THIS IS FOR
This is for the woman who is done putting up with how she feels.
You have been in a loop of striving — pushing, correcting, steadying — that never fully ends. And you are beginning to sense that there has to be another way.
You don't feel like diagnosis and medication is the whole story. You sense that what you are experiencing has meaning — that your system is responding to something real, not malfunctioning.
You are done overriding your intiution for someone elses 'opinion'. It has never felt right, but you are caught between listening to yourself and displeasing others.
You know, somewhere beneath the exhaustion, that there is more available to you. You have always known it. You just haven't found the doorway yet.
You gave yourself so completely to being a good mother, a good wife, a good everything — that somewhere along the way, you lost the thread back to yourself. And now you're standing in mid-life wondering who you actually are beneath all of it.
Illume is not for women who want a quick fix or a set of strategies to manage their way through. It is for women who are ready to understand themselves differently — and let that understanding change everything.
THE FOUR WEEKS
What we move through together
WEEK ONE
Your Nervous System Is Not the Problem
Understanding why you feel the way you feel — and why your system is far more intelligent than you have been told.
WEEK TWO
The Shape of Your Patterns
Mapping the cycles of reactivity, shutdown, and overwhelm with compassion rather than shame.
WEEK THREE
Working With the Body, Not Against It
Somatic practices and tools that actually shift the system — not just the story.
WEEK FOUR
A New Way of Being With Yourself
Integrating what has opened, and moving forward with a different relationship to your own inner and outer world.
IF YOU'RE READY, LET'S BEGIN
You have been holding on
for long enough.
Let this be the opening.
Illume begins 11 May 2026.
Places are limited.
$244 USD
One payment or Payment plan available.
Full access. Four weeks.
Questions? Reach out at monica@thrivingspirit.com.au
What's next? You will be directed to a checkout for payment. After which you will receive an email to confirm your spot. By May 11th you will have received access to the video/audio teaching platform, links for our community hub, and links for all our calls which will take place on Zoom. I can't wait to see you there!