Hi, I'm Monica
...a nurse therapist based in Orange NSW, specialising in somatic psychotherapy
I live on Wiradjuri country in Orange, NSW a beautiful part of Australia.
Eucalypt, Yellow Wattle, and Pine tree's grow here.
I have a deep sense of connection to this place but it is far from the West London suburbia I grew up in. With its cacophony of emergency vehicle sirens going off every half an hour, low flying aircraft overhead, and general overstimulation for a quiet sensitive soul like me, immersing myself in books and music was my remedy.
Looking back I can see how like a lot of people I was impacted by other people's beliefs and expectations. Ones that left me feeling like maybe I just wasn't smart enough to succeed or reach my potential. I was so confused that for a long time I had no idea what I wanted out of life. In fact I didn't dare dream simply because I didn't believe that I could achieve them.
Like many people, I spent most of my life stuck in my head. Thinking and overthinking to the point of panic attacks. So caught up with worrying about what other people thought that I struggled to listen to myself. Later I found out that I have ADHD - which made all the above make total sense!
The moment I started listening to my body and intuition my life changed course. I began to reduce the internal stimuli that had kept me in perpetual ADHD overwhelm for so long and was set on a path that has led me to a purpose-driven, life-filled, light-filled life where I get to choose what success looks like.
To find out how you can achieve this too:
"Between stimulus and response is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom."
Becoming a mother, is just that...a becoming.
It's not easy, with such conflicting advice out there on parenting we can get so disconnected from the one thing we can rely on - our intuition. What's for sure is my love for her.
I see the whole universe inside of her.
She is my main motivation for figuring out my kinks so that they are not passed down to her...and her childrens children...and that her light doesn't get diminished by my habitual reactions.
I have learned why despite my 'intention' to be a calm and playful parent that this is not always possible from just 'knowing' what is important for my child's healthy development, because so much is to do with our unconscious processes - our own conditioning and nervous system regulation. Our stored issues cloud our ability to see our children for who they truly are, and we end up placing lofty expectations on them that then lead to their own stored issues further down the track.
This is a journey that continues but I am deeply grateful to what I have learned so far - how to be truly present, to really enjoy my time with her before she grows up (far) too quickly before my eyes and the time is gone...and how it is possible to be the mother I want to be whilst still being all the other things I need to be.
Don't hesitate to get in touch if you would like to talk about how I can support you to become the conscious, present parent you too wish to be.
Also...mental health advocate, educator and supervisor
It was completely by chance that I found myself working for a mental health service at the age of 17. Following that was a 20-year stretch of working with the most vulnerable people in our communities. Over the years I have experienced a range of challenges, worked in diverse communities, with some great people, all of which have given me a unique perspective on what it takes to work in this space. Whilst I may not be actively working in a clinical space anymore I still have a deep respect and passion for the mental health nurse role.
In my opinion, it is the most challenging, undervalued, yet fulfilling career in the world. There is none other like it, but I believe in it.
I believe in the healing potential between nurse and client/consumer/human.
In fact it is exactly what my logo represents.
Find out more on how I can help you or your team regain meaning and confidence in your work in the mental health space here:
My core values
At the core of everything I do is to empower, advocate and educate so that you are left with not only a better understanding of who you truly are, but recognise your value, your importance, your crucial role to play in the world.
I do this via my therapy work as well as via academic and education pathways, which is underpinned by a strong focus on Recovery-oriented, Trauma-informed, Culturally safe and Compassionate care.
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